In my life, I have been tested over and over again to aquire understanding. We are all children in the beginning and must learn to see that in others. Managing your own growth is one thing. Learning to cope with and understand others is more difficult for me.
I think the most difficult thing to manage are emotions. It is very easy to confuse emotions with logic. That sounds odd but it`s true.I keep thinking about what you said about having a plan. Knowing what you want and planning for it. Having tools for coping with different situations and implementing them as needed. That sounds very simple and I think it is. It seems like people plan for many things but not for their spiritual progress. It is confusing for most, I think, to know how to put this together.
Most people follow some kind of established religious sect. When you refuse to do that, they get confused.
Having a plan , knowing that anything is possible and having a sincere motives is all there is.I am lucky in that I know that anything is possible. I have pure faith. Now for the plan.