A few days ago I discovered that my boyfriend is having an affair with another girl. After 2 days of crying and 1 day of thinking and imagining all possibilities I read The Freedom of Choice book again. What a different book it turned out to be !!
I decided to apply your advice `not to blame anyone else for your own feelings` and become truly curious where my feelings come from and why are they SO overwhelmingly unpleasant. Sure that we cannot demand other people to love us, but WHY does it hurt ME when other people execute their OWN Freedom of Choice?
What I discovered TODAY by sincerely examining the Self was SO surprising for me, that I decided to share it with you and everyone else on your Forum.
Me and my boyfriend had a great time together for a number of years. Frequently we understood each other without words, both in the times of fun and in times of trouble, and I thought that I found the perfect partner. We made grandiose plans for our future together.
Today, I discovered that I have been always attached to the idea of having a wonderful, sensitive and reliable companion for the rest of my life. When a possibility of the lack of such a company arose, I found myself devastated. Going deeper, I discovered a true reason of this feeling Within - I simply do not want to be ALONE. I found that it is a subconscious fear of loneliness that hurts me most !!
My question is - why loneliness is so hard to handle? Any ideas what to do about it?